Usually I try to write a blog post at least once a week. The purpose of creating this blog was to help individuals in their everyday life. My blog was something new to me so I wasn’t exactly sure how to go about it. As I blog more I’m learning not to be so serious. By reading this blog I can’t help but feel like such a uptight snob ass. It wasn’t until my mother pointed out my error. “Tripoli I just think you don’t have to be so serious” was the advice my mother gave me when asked her insight on my blog. It took me all of five minutes to realize that she is exactly right. I am not the girl who spends hours in the library readying encyclopedias. I am not the girl who attends college full-time with a astounding GPA. I am not the girl who has it all together. I am the girl who is on the journey to get it together but in my own way. I want my blog to represent me. The loud obnoxious sarcastic lovable ass hole. The girl who adores fashion, partying, hanging with friends. I want you all to get the chance to know the real me. That is not to say that I will not still be encouraging you all to follow dreams and chase success. I just want to do it my way. So i do apologize if my previous posts’ have bored you. Still read them ! They will help you I promise. However, expect more of the real Tripoli from here on out. I think before my blog was to be considered PG but as of now viewer discretion is advised. So buckle up bitches because I’m about that life. My name is Tripoli for a reason !
This past Wednesday I got the privilege to take part in my very first book club meeting. I have never been apart of a book club but I have always heard wonderful things being associated with them. For those of you that don’t know much about one; a book club is a group of individuals who get together on assigned days to share insight and knowledge on a particular book. Book topics vary but usually the book club is created in order to connect and educate a group of individuals in a social setting. “How Successful People Think” by John C. Maxwell is the book that my club is currently reading. Of course, like the title says, this book was chosen to help motivate and educate young business minded women. I think the reader’s choice was a great one and I am honored to take place in such an uplifting experience.
After my first meeting I felt so compelled to share some of the major key points that I have learned since reading this book. Although I am only on the first chapter, I feel like I have learned so much. This is why I am so excited to share my learning’s with you. Otherwise, what good is it to be educated if you do not take part in educating.
One of the most essential things that I have learned while reading this book was the significance of alone time. In the book Maxwell encourages people to train the mind to think. I know it may seem like you are constantly thinking but let me be the one to tell you that is not the case. “Thinking is hard work; that’s why so few do it” Albert Einstein. In order to allow your brain to digest the thoughts running through your head you have to be in solitude first off. Ever heard the saying “silence is the loudest noise.” You would be surprised to know how many people actually try to avoid being alone in silence. To a person who suffers from the feeling of emptiness it is nearly impossible. When you are in a state of silence and there is nothing to hear but your own thoughts; that is when you become in tune with them. You are then able to profoundly interpret what your mind is saying. Taking an hour out of your week to sit in silence away from all distractions could prove to be successful for you. I encourage all to try this method.
I have always been an independent worker. Choosing never to rely on the help of others has always been my motto. I believed that if I did not work closely with any one I would not risk allowing anyone to ruin my vision or plans. I was being selfish with my dreams. Until yesterday I thought my way of thinking was the right way. I was wrong. You will get further in life by working with a team than by working alone. That was a major lesson to me. Do not ever think that you will be able to learn everything the world has to offer. It is impossible. You will barely be able to learn half of what this world has to offer. By working with people who are strong where you are weak, you build together. Always remember that. That does not mean that you should go out and share your vision and ideas with everyone. Be cautious to only work along side those who A. genuinely care B. have something to offer and C. come with great work ethics.
In order to be successful and produce success ideas you must be willing to analyze your thought process. If you can honestly admit that you are not where you need to be mentally; make a change. That can probably be one of the hardest things for people to admit. No one wants to feel like their everyday thoughts and activities are what hold them back from becoming the person they want to be. That is because along with realizing that you must realize the factors that may prevent you from doing so. Sometimes you must change whom you surround yourself by. You may need to change certain recreational activities. Change is not always a bad thing. It can be good too. You will not feel the need to advance if you are not putting yourself in positions to witness advancement first hand. Keep your eyes on the bigger picture and I promise it will make the habits that you once thought were impossible to break; possible.
I hope that my insight on my very first book club meeting can help you in any way. I want to encourage you all to see life as a game; a game that if played correctly offers a major reward. “You have to think anyway, so why not think BIG” Donald Trump. There is enough success for all of us. Come get a slice of the pie.
Its impossible to know exactly who you are at the age of 22. It’s even harder to figure that out when you live in America, the land of the free. There are so many options to choose from. Women have more power than we use to. Therefore, our opinions are a lot stronger and our voices are being heard. Dreams are being chased and goals are being fulfilled. We don’t have to focus on domestic cleaning and cooking. We now own the houses that are being cleaned and cater the food that is being cooked. We call this evolution.
I myself have taken advantage of this freedom. Working at just about every job possible I have dibble dabbled with societies list of opportunities in hopes of figuring out who I am and what I want to do with the rest of my days on earth. Im not nearly finished with my journey but I have learned a few things along the way. The biggest lesson life has taught me so far is that I can NOT be defined. Here I was searching for a career to fall into in hopes that I would gain true happiness and a feeling of completiness. In all actuality life is playground worth exploring that leads you from one slide to the next, eventually stumbling into happiness.
One day I’ll talk about my love for writing, the next day I’ll want to share a couple songs I’ve recorded. I might even decide to share pointless humorous stories of experiences I’ve had with some of the children I teach. You’ll never know exactly what I’ll have to share. I like it this way. Again I am not a girl that can ever be defined. I do not live my life by one standard. I’m a girl who believes in living with no expectations or boundaries.
This blog entry will be catered to my love of make up, a love that was always present in my life but not one that I thought of pursuing proffesionally. It took me a little while to realize it was an actual talent and something I could grow with. Any who, I decided to give make up a real try. I figured out a name for my business and made a huge investment in growing my supplies. Next my clientele increased. With all these wonderful blessings happening to me I was motivated more and more to keep pushing. So I kept pushing.
Plenty of times in the past I had applied to the infamous Mac cosmetics in hopes of working along side fabulous, well groomed women and men who I admired. Mac represented poise, elegance, and most of all fierceness. It wasn’t until I decided to fully commit to make up that I took the interview process seriously. I got my portfolio, a collection of images displaying my make up talent, together and I marched into the same place that had turned me down at least five times before. I was extremely nervous and I felt like my stomach was going to collapse inside of my body. I politely requested to speak with the manager in hopes of showcasing my abilities and willingness to grow. I was invited back for an interview ! Yes I know YAYE me !!! Now after this sentence I really wish I could tell you about my happy ending as a Mac cosmetics applicator. Unfortunately, that would be not only lying but totally avoiding the point of this blog. I accept the interview offer and if I wasn’t the happiest girl in the world I was surely runner up. The manager said she would be in touch to schedule an interview. I waited and waited and waited. I made a call as an attempt to get some clarity on my scheduled interview date but my efforts were unsuccessful. A month goes by and I give up the excitement I had about my amazing opportunity because I know by then if they wanted me they would have made more of an initiative to recruit me.
I continue on with make up as a freelance artist. I book a few clients here and there but certainly not enough to live off of. So I decide that I need to increase my portfolio. I figure maybe if I have the best pictures of my best work professionally done then not only would I increase my customers but also set me in a position to get hired by a major make up company. My next step was to set up photo shoots and produce quality work. I get out and start to network. Eventually I link up with a wonderful photographer who is willing to help me boost my make up career. I scout several models of all ethnicities, I recruit a hairstylist, and we put a wardrobe together. I am super excited. Then one day when I feel like things can’t get any better I receive a phone call. It was Mac cosmetics ! No it was not the same store I had received the interview offer to, but one even better and bigger. Immediately I sobbed because I felt like God was listening to my prayers and I just knew I would get this position. It had to be destiny. I practiced and prepared for this day because I was so sure I would not let this opportunity slip away.
Two times a charm right ? Well apparently not in Mac’s case. Not only was my interview cancelled the day of for miscellaneous reasons but also I was not given a date for a future interview. By this time I had it up to the ceiling with Mac. Mom always told me “one monkey don’t stop no show”. So instead of sulking in my misery I finished preparing for my photo shoot. My photo shoot was amazing ! I got the opportunity to work with a talented team. I can not wait to share the finished product with you all. I am currently planning my next projects for the future. Nothing but good will come from me.
The moral of this blog post was not to make you feel like life is a fairy tale. I want you to look at my story and realize that on your way to your destination you will be pushed and pulled. There will be many doors that will close in your face. Your job isn’t to figure out why those doors were closed but to instead go knock on new ones. Eventually the right door will open up and with all the anticipation you’ve built up for the other failed attempts and you’ll learn to appreciate the opportunity that much more. My best advice to you would be to keep knocking. Knock so hard that they have to open up. Then force your way in. I can’t say where my future with Mac cosmetics lies. What I will say is that with or without them I will reach the goal I have set for myself. I am not a girl that can ever be defined.