No Love lost, you’re just lost

LADIES i feel like I must say this or else it will never be said. I have made mistakes in my life countless times and I continue to make mistakes. Some mistakes may have been avoidable if I had someone to help me. I didn’t however, which is why I was left looking like the lost dumb girl. So here it goes…. IF HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND STOP DOING THE DUTIES OF A WIFE!  We have ALL made the mistake of cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, and making beds for these little boys. My question to you is what is your reward ? What did you get for doing a grown mans laundry? a $8 dollar movie date that neither one of you could afford…. oh okay. what do you get out of laying next to a man every night although you have your own house and he has his own place? a warm body to hold? ….oh okay. Seems to me if he wanted to shack up he could wife up. What do you get out of making him a home cooked meal using more than likely the food you brought ? a premature weenie ?…oh okay. Moving on. Ladies STOP MAKING HOUSE VISITS SO SOON! lets be real ladiessssss you’re on your first date and he takes you to chili’s. How sweet… Then he decides that your company is just too great that he can’t be without it so he invites to to his place. Of course why wouldn’t he? Its free and he doesn’t have to waste gas. More importantly it’s his chance to meet kitty. So you go over there already with the idea of what he wants in your mind. Now either you are the silly chick that thinks “well he took me to chilli’s so I guess I’ll let him have it” or you’re the silly chick that thinks “this boy thinks he’s slick, we are not doing anything but I’ll come over”. Either way it goes he’s meeting kitty because you are there and you are a woman and it only takes that one kiss in that one spot to set you off. So honey don’t play yourself short, go home, or that’ll be the last chili’s date you receive. Next, DON’T FORGET WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS WITH HIM. Now ladies I see this ALOT and I’ll admit I’ve done this myself. Many times when we “think” he’s the one so we will dedicate every minute of our existence to him. When we are not with him we are thinking of him. It’s just too much ladies and honestly you do nothing but tire the relationship out too soon. Do not get so caught up in his life that you forget about your own. When it ends, which it will, it’ll hurt that much more because of the amounts of time he consumed. You will feel lost and hopeless trying to readjust to life before him. Remember ladies a woman too available is a turn off so go turn up with your girls and live your life ! HE’S YOUR BOYFRIEND NOT YOUR CHILD ! now I don’t really have to say much about this subject. The money you give him is being spent on shoes to impress other chicks instead of on flowers to impress his own chick. The car you are letting him drive is being driven to his side chick’s house. The house you are paying bills for because he can’t keep a job is being occupied by hims, his side chick, and her kids while you slave at work. You get the picture right? A man should be the provider and if he is not he is not a man. So trade that boy in for a toy and have a good day OKAY! Last but not least, LOVE DON’T PAY BILLS. Sweetie if you can’t afford something and you asking your friends instead of your man what is really going on ?! You should be working an extra job instead of laying with him on your free time. It’s not cute and just know the folks are talking, but you can’t be mad because your situation is sad sad sad. Get it together girlfriend.

Hope this helps one of you confused young sweeties. Someday the right love will come but if you are in any one of these relationships my advice would be to wrap it up. That is all. Ya’ll be blessed !

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my name is Tripoli. pronounced TRIP-AH-LEE. Growing up my mother always told me I could be whatever I wanted to be. I believed her, I still do.

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