sit·u·a·tion·ship siCHəˈwāSH(ə)nˌSHip Noun Noun: situationship; plural noun: situationships 1 A confused form of dating. Usually inititated by the more dominate person. 2 Synonym 3 , Friends with benefits, booty call, confused, sex partners Once upon a time promiscuity was rare. It was either done in the dark or not done at all. Guys would actually have to take the time out to get to know a young lady before even thinking about persuading her to give herself sexually. Therefore, men rose to the occasion. They dedicated time, they arranged dates, they committed. Boy has times changed. Now days you go out with the girls and you see a cute guy, you two exchange numbers. This is usually followed by drinks at your nearest happy hour (if even that much). Next comes the infamous “lets chill” invite, which usually takes place on your couch. Last and certainly least it’s WAHM BAM THANK YOU MAAM…. I’ll call you. HA. A few months down the road and nothings changed. You don’t really know this person on an intellectual level but you could probably point his penis out in a 50-man line up. Only thing that’s progressed are your feelings towards him. You want a commitment. He’s not willing to declare that to you. So therefore, he’s allowed to go out and meet other women. You, silly confused one, have the audacity to be offended and hurt. You feel as if he’s being dishonest and that you’re the only one that should be entitled to his beefcake. It hurts I know. I’m hurt for you. You are in what I would call a situationship. People I’m not here to tell you how to make that guy change. If you want more insight on finding Mr. or Ms. right read one of my previous post. That’s not the point of this piece. Actually I just want one simple question answered. WHAT HAPPENED TO PLATONIC FRIENDSHIPS? Do those even exist anymore? Is it possible to be friends with the opposite sex without adding sex? Sometimes we miss out on really good friendships due to our hormones. Girls it’s good to have at least one male friend. He could be that ear when your girls don’t get you. He could even help you understand guys more. That kind of love is genuine because you don’t have lust sitting on your shoulder confusing you. The same goes for guys. Every attractive person you meet doesn’t need a bedroom invite. Lets experiment. The next time you go out and meet someone of the opposite sex exchange numbers. Hang out with that person in a public and friendly setting. Talk and get to know that person. See where that gets you. If you are one of those people that are in a situationship I would suggest you let it go. It’s very rare that anything will become of it. It’s never too late to start over and wipe the slate clean.

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I’ve been mia (missing in action). I know this. Actually, I’ve had a lot going on. When I say a a lot, I mean just that. So much has happened. I have been living my life and living it well. All along my wondrous adventures, I’ve come to this conclusion, love life and every single thing it has to offer. Just think about it. Do you love life or do you just live it? Is life something you find yourself just gliding through? Are you just going through the motions or are you observing the changes, the blessings, and the lessons? Do you wake up and go to sleep appreciative of whatever the day presented you with. Whether good or bad does it all make you smile because you know there is a divine reason for everything that you have crossed paths with. Well that is what I have been going through. What will be will be and what is coming will come. I was not always like this. I use to stress and think too much. Life has taught me that those actions change nothing. Right now, I am just living in the moment and I love it. I smile more stress less. There is no time in my schedule for the past and I wont get too bored with the present to wander off to the future far before my time. I am relaxed. The time I’ve taken to myself was more than worth it. I can truly say I learned so much and I’m ready to share. Stick around.