is true love even true these days ?

This past month I found myself socializing with two guys. Both men were something different for me as far as dating goes but rather the same when it came to each other. They are in their early thirties living in Houston. I think that’s the only similarity that actually matters in this post so there is no need to go on. Anyway, after my countless failed attempts with dating males my age I decided to step my game up a little. I figured 30 is a good age because they are too old to still want to be whores yet too young for marriage. Perfect was my definition for this age group of men. That’s until my two similar friends opened their two similar mouths and provided two similar answers.

After the routine meet and greet things begin to get comfortable. The questions start to come rolling out. One of those questions happened to be “when would you like to be married?” I ask this question because dealing with a man that age anything is possible. More than anything I don’t want to capture the heart of a man that’s looking for a wife when I myself know I am not ready. Both men then responded 35. I asked both men “are you looking for a commitment currently?” they both respond “not right now”. I chuckle, both times. Okay so how can you predict marriage at 35 if you aren’t in a serious relationship and you don’t plan on settling down any time soon? Guy A. responds, “I plan on having friends. Out of those friends the one I like most I will marry”. Guy B responds, “I’ll probably settle down around 33/34 and that should be enough time to know that person and get married.” ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… I haven’t spoken to either since. I’ve come to this conclusion, either they both saw me as a booty call and decided to not sell me dreams or they both were idiot morons who truly believe that is how love and marriage develops. If it was the first answer then neither of them stood a chance. Sorry boys I’m saving myself for Tupac when he returns. If it was the second answer I can definitely see divorce in your near future. What’s the rush on love? I’m no marriage counselor and I’ve never been married but it bothered me how both men viewed marriage. It was as if marriage was a job you applied for at a certain age and if you got the position that meant you got the wife. Why is it that when men are ready to put aside the games and commit it’s “all good”. “Lets hurry up and do this because I got a deadline”. Shouldn’t love be something that takes time and develops? I mean I get it you do have those soul mates that meet randomly and spend forever together. I just didn’t know you could put an age limit on true love. I mean at that point is it even considered true? Feel free to comment I’d love to get your feedback!