is true love even true these days ?

This past month I found myself socializing with two guys. Both men were something different for me as far as dating goes but rather the same when it came to each other. They are in their early thirties living in Houston. I think that’s the only similarity that actually matters in this post so there is no need to go on. Anyway, after my countless failed attempts with dating males my age I decided to step my game up a little. I figured 30 is a good age because they are too old to still want to be whores yet too young for marriage. Perfect was my definition for this age group of men. That’s until my two similar friends opened their two similar mouths and provided two similar answers.

After the routine meet and greet things begin to get comfortable. The questions start to come rolling out. One of those questions happened to be “when would you like to be married?” I ask this question because dealing with a man that age anything is possible. More than anything I don’t want to capture the heart of a man that’s looking for a wife when I myself know I am not ready. Both men then responded 35. I asked both men “are you looking for a commitment currently?” they both respond “not right now”. I chuckle, both times. Okay so how can you predict marriage at 35 if you aren’t in a serious relationship and you don’t plan on settling down any time soon? Guy A. responds, “I plan on having friends. Out of those friends the one I like most I will marry”. Guy B responds, “I’ll probably settle down around 33/34 and that should be enough time to know that person and get married.” ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… I haven’t spoken to either since. I’ve come to this conclusion, either they both saw me as a booty call and decided to not sell me dreams or they both were idiot morons who truly believe that is how love and marriage develops. If it was the first answer then neither of them stood a chance. Sorry boys I’m saving myself for Tupac when he returns. If it was the second answer I can definitely see divorce in your near future. What’s the rush on love? I’m no marriage counselor and I’ve never been married but it bothered me how both men viewed marriage. It was as if marriage was a job you applied for at a certain age and if you got the position that meant you got the wife. Why is it that when men are ready to put aside the games and commit it’s “all good”. “Lets hurry up and do this because I got a deadline”. Shouldn’t love be something that takes time and develops? I mean I get it you do have those soul mates that meet randomly and spend forever together. I just didn’t know you could put an age limit on true love. I mean at that point is it even considered true? Feel free to comment I’d love to get your feedback!

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Tripoli

my name is Tripoli. pronounced TRIP-AH-LEE. Growing up my mother always told me I could be whatever I wanted to be. I believed her, I still do.

2 thoughts on “is true love even true these days ?

  1. We live in a generation of not being in love and not being together, but we sure make it feel like we’re together….#drake. I like this line in that song “Doing it Wrong” because thats just it in this day and age we live in. I personally do not think love should be rushed. Im guilty of thinking every man I got with was the one and that i was so in love until somthing happend and we had a huge fall out. Now I know for a fact Ive never experienced true love so I dont know how to give true love, but i know it will come and i’ll know exactly what it is when that time comes. it will kick in like an instinct as like the motherly instinct that kicks in when a new baby comes. I also like older men because yes they do tend to be more mature and stabled and have a pretty good idea of what they want and how they want to spend the rest of their lives but every now and then you will run into your grown ass boys. and like K-Michelle said. “You cant raise a man”

  2. Hahaha. I can’t deal with such immaturity!!!
    I’ve noticed men are just completely the worst! Worst at being in the friend zone, giving intellectual conversations & feed back that even just might apply to them. Like wait we are in 2015 it’s time for you to step it up & know what, when, where & how you want it! Those thinking days are over or whatever you into I’m into days are over. Sad I changed my dating age to 30 as well & it seems they get dumber and immature by the day. Time for us girls to stop looking & just wait for what God has in store!

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